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There are steps you can take to make sure you are there for someone who may need a little help. Introducing Alan...

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Introducing Dave's Sensible Cousin Alan

First, think about why you are worried about someone, this will help you approach the conversation in a sensitive way You may have noticed:

• Changes in mood, sudden calm or withdrawal • Changes in sleeping or eating patterns • Reckless behaviour; drug or alcohol use • Anger or irritability

You may not have noticed anything - remember some people actively try not to show any warning signs. The most important thing is to keep an eye out for changes in behaviour. Trust your instincts, and if something doesn’t feel right, there’s absolutely no harm in checking in.

The team at CALM have provided four steps we can all follow if we’re worried about a mate.

Anyone can do it… Introducing Alan
Step 1

ASK:

Ask open questions like, "how are you feeling?" to start a conversation. Show concern but don't judge.

First, think about why you are worried about someone, this will help you approach the conversation in a sensitive way You may have noticed:

• Changes in mood, sudden calm or withdrawal • Changes in sleeping or eating patterns • Reckless behaviour; drug or alcohol use • Anger or irritability

You may not have noticed anything - remember some people actively try not to show any warning signs. The most important thing is to keep an eye out for changes in behaviour. Trust your instincts, and if something doesn’t feel right, there’s absolutely no harm in checking in.

The team at CALM have provided four steps we can all follow if we’re worried about a mate.

Anyone can do it… Introducing Alan
Step 2

LISTEN:

Let them speak. You don’t need to solve problems, they may just need to get stuff off their chest.

First, think about why you are worried about someone, this will help you approach the conversation in a sensitive way You may have noticed:

• Changes in mood, sudden calm or withdrawal • Changes in sleeping or eating patterns • Reckless behaviour; drug or alcohol use • Anger or irritability

You may not have noticed anything - remember some people actively try not to show any warning signs. The most important thing is to keep an eye out for changes in behaviour. Trust your instincts, and if something doesn’t feel right, there’s absolutely no harm in checking in.

The team at CALM have provided four steps we can all follow if we’re worried about a mate.

Anyone can do it… Introducing Alan
Step 3

ACTION:

Help them make a plan of action and set some simple goals. Let them know what help is out there. Arrange your next meet up.

First, think about why you are worried about someone, this will help you approach the conversation in a sensitive way You may have noticed:

• Changes in mood, sudden calm or withdrawal • Changes in sleeping or eating patterns • Reckless behaviour; drug or alcohol use • Anger or irritability

You may not have noticed anything - remember some people actively try not to show any warning signs. The most important thing is to keep an eye out for changes in behaviour. Trust your instincts, and if something doesn’t feel right, there’s absolutely no harm in checking in.

The team at CALM have provided four steps we can all follow if we’re worried about a mate.

Anyone can do it… Introducing Alan
Step 4

NETWORK:

Build a network of support together, with other friends and family.

These four steps can really help people who may need a hand at the moment. For more information and help visit thecalmzone.net

At any point, if someone’s life is at risk, stay with them and call 999.

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Introducing Dave's Sensible Cousin Alan

Step 1

ASK:

Step 2

LISTEN:

Step 3

ACTION:

Step 4

NETWORK: